OnPointt ! I ARCHIVES II I Look At What We Have Covered

A memoir is autobiographical writing, but shorter in nature than the autobiography.
Memoirs centers around a problem or a good moment in time, focuses on a conflict
of sorts and eventually there is a resolution, a learning lesson for the writer and readers. Memoirs usually have a fictional quality even though the story is true
(usually to protect identities of persons involved in the memories).
The bottom line, memoirs are true accounts.

Essential Truth is what James Frey kept saying. The 'Essential Truth' is another term for believing your own truths, when they may not be factual accounts. We readers, media persons can only draw the conclusion that it was lies because James Frey came on National Television (The Oprah Show) and admitted the report THE SMOKING GUN displayed to the public was true.
A memoir remember, are true accounts. On Larry King Live, when Frey was the guest, you could tell his whole world was crumbling around him. Even when Oprah called in to give support to him, the only one clapping and carrying on was the older female lady beside him.
If anyone noticed, Frey had this blank stare, emotionless. From our first hand view,
we at OnPointt knew it was going to be a matter of days for this whole thing to BLOW!

We all are capable of human error. This is reality but when we choose to be a Professional in the media world, you must without a doubt FACT CHECK! It is imperative to your career, business and your creditworthiness! This line of business is very competitive. You break a story, you begin to obtain a following of people, there will always be someone ready to take you down! Shattered Glass the movie should be in every journalist and media professionals DVD/VHS Collection!
You can be outed and Smoking Gun.com outed everyone! What is fact checking? Fact checking is just proper media investigation. You check the sources to validate what has been presented.

You keep a log of what records you've checked, the people you spoke with, times, dates, and sometimes a description of what the weather was like when you did the checks. You want to cover yourself to prevent being DUPED. Most Media Professionals don't want to ever be in this situation but it can happen even to the best of us. This is one time Oprah's and Nan's team did not FC good enough. As we conclude, it was shocking to hear these comments by Nan:

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" I mean, as an editor, do you ask someone, "Are you really as bad as you are?" Oprah responded, "Yes". Questions should have been answered not only by Nan and her team but by Oprah and her team as well. Human error most likely was not considered when you hear the name Doubleday/Random House. Responsibility After The Media Storm: Oprah Winfrey admitted her error and that is what it is all about. Nan didn't do this whatsover, she gave excuses and examples of why she made her decisions.

James only admitted truth when there was nothing else he could do. Readers opinion about this whole thing are mixed. You still have supporters of the book (the inspiration) and you have non supporters. So goes the way of the world. You can be sure from here on out, there will be fact checks, and for those who want to try what James Frey did, there will still be THE SMOKING GUN.com. NO PART OF THIS ARTICLE IS PERMITTED TO BE RE-PRITNED UNLESS WRITTEN CONSENT IS GIVEN BY ONPOINTT ONLINE MAGAZINE. TO PRINT THIS ARTICLE CONTACT ONPOINTT ONLINE.COM BY EMAIL.

As a black man one of the worst things you can have put out about you: You have been caught up in a homosexual relationship
and the 'ish isn't true! Charlotte's Mayor Pro Tem Patrick Cannon and another high profiled person of the Charlotte Community was blasted viciously with this rumor two years out. TWO YEARS OUT! Many were excited that Patrick Cannon decided to run for
Mayor Of Charlotte two years ago. I even attended a meeting at THE CHARLOTTE CHAMBER where Cannon addressed the public, made his announcement to run for Mayor, and thanked his supporters. I felt he had the support to give Pat McCorey a nice run.
Public background on this man Patrick Cannon: A family man, business man, going to church man and a man for the people.
After his announcement to run for Mayor, the word came he wasn't running. He was out, just like that, no one saw this coming! Statement made: (unquote) Spending time with family, family first. Okay I get that sir but what was all the hype for?

The announcements, the clear agenda of what you had in mind to lead Charlotte? I feel it takes alot of thought to run for office.
Whim? Nah, not a man like Patrick Cannon. He put some thought into running. Soon the word that he is caught up in a man loving man episode happened. I had my girl talking to me about this rumor ( some email she received at work). Church folk started talking, and it just went into a blazing mess. As a man, I was like, you know felt so sorry for this brother. I felt sorry for his family because the manhood was being attacked. What was so sad, our people was believing it. No one thought about blackmail, threats against the fmaily, many thought the rumor was true. I am not here to judge but I will say this... if something of this damaging magnitude came out about me I would have addressed it head on. I'm talking about a man's manhood, next comes everything else. Cannon did not address the issue as quick as some people would have liked for him to but it was his call. Who knows what was going on in the background (lawsuit for defamation of character?) People will go to extremes to make you look bad. Cannon told the local news station, in February 2007, the rumors were a lie made up by those not wanting him to succeed (some of those were our own people, sad). You are good enough for Pro Tem Cannon but not Mayor? Could we have had his back instead of believing in the planted seed? Rise up again my brother and come back in a way where you can serve the county of Mecklenburg- a county you do care about. Cannon did mention he would consider coming back into the realms of public service at some point. It's a cruel world,
but with honesty and self-truth, they hold the key to survival. Remember they lied on Malcom, Martin, Rosa, so on and so on.

BREAKING IT DOWN, THE SUGA MAMAS
These type of women more times than not were/are wealthy. A high number of Suga Mamas are in their mid to late thirties, forties and beyond. They want no parts of a lonely bed, no parts of having solo time at the movies or events on a consistent basis. Some have a variety of escorts lined up for evenings out, and evenings in. In other words paying for sexual services rendered after an evening out an event with friends or business associates. Egad! They don't show up solo! The pay up involves more than large sums of cash. Pay outs could be inviting the man to live with them, paying most of the bills than the man, buying him a car, jewlery, etc.

All in all after the formalities have run it's course, most Suga Mamas look for something in her arrangement relationship with the man that resembles a meaningful relationship. Many of these women know all along their boy toy is there for the money. Maybe he will change. Some change. Maybe he will move on to the next after demands of Suga Mama become a issue he does not want to deal with. Some never have a chance to walk away, they are carried away and placed six feet deep. There is a price paid with the heart, body or life sometimes. It is never a good idea to play with someone, use someone. You may not walk away. It is just a dangerous game to play.

Remember the movie "THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE" ?

Is the information given some secret? No. This has been happening for a very long time. The whole kept men, kept women situation has been happening since ancient times. In Today's world, Suga Mama's are not in a one 'classed society'. No longer do you have to be mega rich to be a Suga Mama. While many are mega rich, or laced with a good paying job in their 30's, 40's, 50's and beyond - the age group has gone down to younger Suga Mamas in their 20's. While it is not a big number because most young women in their 20's still hold fast to the idea the guy should be getting me this and that, you do have some young Suga Mamas. We all know the code that when Suga Mama is putting out, time has to be spent or someone' s funds may get cut off.

Should women be appalled to this fact that around the card table, around the bar, around the barbershops, around the golf course, someone is strategizing hooking up with the Suga Mama? Sometimes you are thrown into a Suga Mama situation because of the category men are placing you in. You have no intentions of having a kept man but here he comes, you recognize game and you send him on his way. Others sadly are not thrown into the situation and their desperate need for someone in their lives makes them pay out but mentally they are getting screwed.

TIMES OF A SUGA MAMA...
Remember this is more so a fringe benefit situation, not necessarily looking for love situation.

Have you been caught up?

NEW TIMES, NEW GAMES
The young men are catching on fast ladies. Don't be paranoid, just be cautious! This advice is coming from *Angela a fortish young lady living in Charlotte North Carolina. Angela has two young boys, never been married, she works in banquet services, and she has her own office cleaning business. She has a modest home, a nice truck, and she looks good for her age. In comes *Curtis. He has two children, he works as a city driver, divorced, nice on the eyes, he is in his early thirties.

Angela says he was everything she wanted in the beginning. He could relate to her because he had children, he was looking for a good woman to be by his side. Angela went on to say he was attentive: Flowers, several calls throughout the day, cooked dinner, they went out sometimes but he liked more private alone time, active in his children's lives, the sex was the bomb. After three months of dating, Angela let's Curtis move in. Three more months later, Angela co-signs on a car for Curtis, a year later Angela is pregnant. In a three year time span, Angela has been verbally abused, mentally abused (he steps out on her with other women now), and has acquired debt to the tune of $20K because of Curtis sudden interest in joining a bikers club, where she is rarely invited to events. Is there a way out?

*Yvonne is a retired school teacher in her early fifties. Her children are grown 27, and 29 with families of their own. Her husband died when the children were in their college years. Since then she has dated men here and there but no one who really sparked her interest. In comes *Tony a construction worker, very handsome, has his own home, car and he is in his mid-thirties. In the beginning of their relationship they go everywhere, he spends out more than she, the sex is all that. After two years into the relationship, Yvonne finds herself wanting marriage. Tony isn't interested in that. He tells her up front that maybe she needs to find someone who is in the same mindframe of marriage. He goes on to say, he wanted to open up his own business and he can't possibly think about marriage until that happens. He gives her the speech if he doesn't try it, he will always wonder what if I had started my own business. Then he puts the nail in the coffin saying, maybe they should take a break. With this information, Yvonne finds herself lavishing Tony with gifts, she does more of the paying for things and gives him $10K to help him start his business. The relationship has gone from honest to honestly cruel. He tells her she could have given more, she knows she is sitting on a goldmine, when she stands firm not to give him anymore, he no longer hides the fact he sees other women. Yvonne says she wants marriage, and with marriage she will do more. Tony tells her she is starting to suffocate him. She finds out there is another Suga Mama in the picture. She is contemplating giving him more money, her friends urge her to dump him. Is there a way out?

*Monique is only 22 years old. She works at a retail store as a manager. Monique has one daughter by her high school sweetheart, who doesn't keep a job. He sells drugs, takes drugs, unable to pass a drug test because he won't give up smoking weed. They stay in a two bedroom apartment. He has is truck, she has a truck. They don't pay for daycare because either he is keeping their daughter while she is at work (she works third shift) or one of their mother's keep their daughter at night if he wants to hangout with th boys. You would think he is paying most of the bills, Actually no. Monique is paying the rent, the lights, phone, and cable. Her truck is paid for. Her sweetheart is paying for his NEW TRUCK WITH RIMS, and he helps with groceries. Sometimes when Monique is pissed, she starts to rant about what she is paying. Either he throws her a few dollars more for the bills, or hats up out of there and stays with his boys or bluntly tells her he doesn't need this, he is going over to another chicks house. A chick who has been her rival since high school. Monique meets other guys who has more going for themselves and admire how she keeps it all together with the loser around. She loves baby's father but she knows she could do better. He tells her she isn't going anywhere cause she can't find someone else who loves her better. Is there a way out?

STANDING FIRM AMIDST THE SIGNS...
You definitely need to listen when it comes to men talking to you. If the conversation comes up with the talk of "I like older women". Be very cautious. There is a word on the street about older women. For some reason men, especially younger men feel these are prime Suga Mamas. They will come with the lines, "Older women aren't into the drama like younger women." Actually what they are really saying is most times, 'You will stand for more of my issues than she will." Many, not all feel women in their thirties and beyond are done with children, aren't too hyped on marriage, just desperate enough for attention. Many feel their sexual prowess can get them inside of your homes, your bank account, your heart and your soul. Reality is women no matter the age may have drama, and not everyone is focused in any one age bracket. There are women in their 20's who are very focused and they have no drama. What is coming at you is game. Don't get caught.

Ask yourself why is he just dating older wome? What's up with that? Shouldn't you be dating someone because they are compatible to you, no matter the age? What is the real reason behind dating older women only.

Be cautious ladies on Mr. Smooth
Don't be so willing to talk about all that you have in the beginning. Sometimes we are just trying to let him know what's up but keep it minimum. Talk about your interest, finances is not a good conversation piece when you are talking about your own personal finances. That subject should be off the table. Ask him about his goals, his dreams, ask him about any plans for the future. If it doesn't sound so good, you might want to put him on the backburner or exit him out of your life immediately. Obviously he is not concerned about doing something for himself but looking for someone to do it for him. Actions speak louder than words, so observe his progress if you want him to stick around. Definitely don't let him enter your world as a Mr. Right because he is not. Can you play the game without getting your feelings involved? Most times no so don't even get caught up in the sexual game. Most women will find themselves getting caught up in no time. Even if you are the detachment type of woman, sometimes it may be hard to get rid of him if he is a lose cannon. Not all stalkers are women. Word.

Now if you find yourself with someone who just seems too good to be true, he probably is. Everyone has some faults, so putting someone on a pedastal is not a good idea. Stand firm when it comes to what you want and how you go about getting what you want. As a grown adult, say what's up with you. Let him know you want children, you are looking for an equal partner in a relationship and definitely run it into the ground on the onset and middle set, YOU ARE NOT A SUGA MAMA, YOU DON'T TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE, IF THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR KEEP GOING. Let them know YOU ARE SO SERIOUS ABOUT THIS. As grown people we should not be funding someone else dreams unless this is our child and even then we have to watch out for children using parents. Still that bitter taste can be taken better than if it were from someone less than.

Are we to blame as women? Yes most of us who get caught up in the smallest to biggest way are. Men cannot do anymore than what we allow them to do. There are alot of good men out here who are looking for a help mate. There are alot of good men out here who are looking for that whole partnership/mariage relationship. There is a difference between doing something nice for someone sometimes and lacing someone's lifestyle in a big financial way. There are times when that someone in your life may lose a job, have financial crisis but as a sane person you should know when it is that situation or a use use situation. We are discussing Suga Mamas and users, a blatant show of GIVE ME WHAT YOU GOT. Women have to recognize that paying to keep someone is not the way. You have to love yourself first, be good to yourself first and then things will fall into place.

Is there a way out for the women mentioned in our INVESTIGATIVE REPORT?
*Angela divorced Curtis. She is still responsible for the motorcycle debt she alone signed for but she has worked out a payment plan to be finished paying it off in two years. Curtis had to turn over the motorcycle to Angela, who now let's her nephew drive. Angela did not seek child support from Curtis because she doesn't want to share custody with him. He has picked up a drinking habit and in the streets more. He is allowed to come over Twice a week to see his daughter. Angela is currently dating a minister. Even though he is a minister, Angela has brought all cards to the table, she will not be signing on for anything. Do you and she will do her.
*Yvonne had a nervous breakdown after stabbing Tony one night during a fight. He did not press charges, but a restraining order is in place. Her family, friends and church is there for her. Yvonne will be in therapy to help her get through this emotional time, hopefully gain a sense of self love, and come to grips with reality that this relationship has run it's course.
*Monique is still dealing with her situation but according to reports, it is a matter of time before she moves on to someone else. Her job is sending her back to school. This opportunity will open her up to more people with goals and making dreams into a reality. Unless her high school sweetheart does a 360, she will evolve past him.
We all desire someone in our lives but you have to be very cautious whom you let into your world. Take your time, there is no rush for something that is meant to be. When we say take our time, we mean in the aspects of getting to know them, observe them, make sure what is being spoken checks out. If they are not wanting marriage, children, and you want this, let them go. Always be respected and don't be a chump.
THIS CONCLUDES OUR INVESTIGATIVE REPORT. ~The Connection 2007